Marriage is Hard.

Life is a mystery. Life is a concoction of both really bad experience somewhat bad and good moments and happy times. You decide which ones you keep in your memory.

One moment in time you are in love,happy and careless about what people say, the other moment out of respect from the people you care about even those that made you neglect others. Which of these should harbour in you memory?

One time there is a total loss of the wonderful memories that people share. Completely erased by little less significant happenings. The everyday good things that bound relationships together just fades and disappears into thin air. Then life is an empty shell. Then men and some ladies try alcohol as I did. Then it doesn’t work.

The diversity of a society is meant to make it stronger. The qualities and strengths of a community are intended to mitigate the shortcomings and weaknesses of the other community. People are stronger together.

It is like a marriage. There are times when women lose that urge for sex. And then there are times when they realise that they want to want like the New York Times puts it.

They strangely and aggressively react to any suggestive conversation that appears to be guided towards intimacy. And then, if not considerate, people fall out. Those that one time was wildly in love. There is hate after that. Then hate grows into something worse, and marriages break. Then there is divorce.

Woman suffer more at the initial stages of a broken relationship, and then they slowly move on. Men don’t. I have never moved on from my failures in the past. I struggle to accept that there isn’t any love now. But I keep saying, it is my choice. I have to live with my decision.

She says, “I don’t care anymore. I don’t need you anymore. Please just leave. Leave with everything you came with this house. I will start over again.” I see, feel and smell frustration in her voice and tone. She is making a mistake, and she probably doesn’t want that. And she was ranting spraying saliva all over.

And I say, “I can’t leave. I am empty without family. I am willing to stay put. I will forego all the things I want. I will be less selfish. I will live with you the rest of my life because you are my choice and I have to live by my choices.”

Some of my choices have become my weaknesses. I have been active enough for years to withstand my personal feeling. I never looked at women lustfully. But I do now. I had this thick skin buoyed by fear of being rejected not to mess with female friends.

What Jack Ma, Jeff Bezos and Bill Gates Have in Common

Some of the richest people in the world have had interesting paths in their life. Jack Ma of Alibaba, Jeff Bezos of Amazon and Bill Gates of Microsoft are all successful in their respects. There is a common underlying factor in the three men.

The own technology firms

Jeff Bezos was briefly the richest man in the world on Thursday 28th July 2017. The surge in Amazon stocks is said to have raised Bezos net worth at about $90 Billion although he did not finish the day as the richest man in the world. Bezos owns 79.9 million Amazon shares which translate to close to 17% of the company.

Bezos owns 79.9 million Amazon shares which turn to close to 17% of the company according to CNBC.

Bezos started selling book more than two decades ago in his garage and build one of the most respectable online platforms of this century

Jack Ma, who recently visited East Africa along side 38 other Chinese billionaires is the richest man in Asia with a net worth of about $36 billion based on Forbes magazine. He is the chairman of online e-commerce website Alibaba.

He is openly known as  Asian business magnate although he had an undesirable past compared to what he is now. Jack Ma’s idea of Alibaba is closely related to Jeff Bezos e-commerce giant Amazon.

He is openly known as  Asian business magnate although he had an undesirable past compared to what he is now. Jack Ma’s idea of Alibaba is closely related to Jeff Bezos e-commerce giant Amazon.
Bill Gates, who dropped out of college to start the most famous technology company Microsoft which owns a variety of assets including computer operating system Windows, search engine Bing and social platform for professionals LinkedIn.

They are all innovators and entrepreneurs.



The richest people have started their unique solutions to the world that has lifted them to their current wealth level. The focus most on solving human suffering, simplifying the way things are done and making work easier.

Most of the ideas they generated have been transformed to publicly traded organizations in which investors can own and feel part of them.

Do you have an idea for a business? Take the next step, Launch that side hustle and stop giving excuses

 

5 Websites You Should Follow to Improve Your Blogging Career

Reading other blogs improves your writing skills and ultimately improve your blogs. Today I am going to share five websites that I regularly read to keep me inspired.

These five form the top five in my bookmark list. I skim through the sites to check what they have to share. They are successful at what they do, and they have been an influence on my journey.

Penelope Trunk

She is an accomplished career coach and a media personality in the United States. She gives advice at the intersection of work and life, and I do enjoy her perspective on life.

She says you should choose to have sex over your career.Her posts are mind boggling sometimes she sounds crazy. She will tell you that you will never earn from blogging. You should read her blog.

Shoutmeloud

An Indian award winning blog that will give you insights on the latest trends in blogging fraternity. The owner of the blog, Harsh Agwaral, has ideas that would inspire your journey including sharing his income reports.

He also shares some advice on how to get started with monetizing your blog. It is a great place to get information on affiliate marketing.

Personal Excellence

She left her lucrative career at PnG to pursue her passion. She says her passion was helping people discover and grow themselves.

Her blog shares some long form posts that have encouraging stuff to keep you going, even when you feel depressed. She has thousands of materials ranging from e-books that talk about love to career choice and it is just amazing how positive she is about life.

Biko Zulu

He shares incredible stories about life. He says, everything that happens every day is a story and is worth being shared. His creativity and use of words have improved the way I view situations in life.

Unlike Penelope who shares her real life events, Biko speaks about things that happen around him. Penelope is so blatant in the way she describes even her own sex life (it is not what you think. read through her blog)

News Websites

I read the news every day. New keeps me in shape around what is happening. It gives me inspiration to critic news items. When you feel like you don’t have what to write, watching or reading news can be an important way to start off.

Getting news depends on where you are and your favourite newscaster, or app or website. I like Aljazeera. They seem more objective that the others world media houses and Reuters too. But if you are in the UK you should have a favourite like the BBC and CNN in the US. Those are just examples.

5 Ways Blogging is Completely Overrated

Recently my friend asked how he could make money while he slept. I didn’t think of anything else. So I asked him what he loves, and he told me Databases, Linux and something else I don’t remember. So I told him to start a blog. That was the dumbest advice I have ever given out. Admittedly, I should have told him to start a company then employ people to work for him then he can sleep.

  1. Most successful bloggers have a journalistic background. The rest were so good at what they did unlike you. Some are teachers and others are engineers. After successfully teaching and creating materials for teachers, they stop and start telling you how fun it is to blog. It is not fun. At all. Biko Zulu doesn’t narrate how he became successful, but he has had exposure to the media as a columnist. Oh, and he is so good at what he does.

You won’t earn any income. I am pragmatic real here. For a young Kenyan to make it online, start a rumor-mongering website. Kenyans love rumors. Better still, you could start covering what the mainstream media is pushing under the carpet. Now for you to do that, you need to be in the media. You are not. You just finished college, and you need a real job to get you going.

The only thing you can do now is creative work. Start reselling computers as I do. Get some cash, look for a distributor and launch your own business.

  1. Most successful bloggers don’t give you anything concrete. They talk about how they became successful, and you kill yourself trying to be them.

Like Penelope, she talks about how she managed to launch her four startups, divorced her husband and fell in love with a farmer. Then she fell out of love, and she now writes about her talented son auditioning and joining Julliard, and you think blogging is cool.

She only teaches me to be me. Otherwise, I don’t care what she did to be where she is. It doesn’t work that way.

Do you realize that what motivates you is lucky people who do not have a real formula to get you where they are? That is why I don’t encourage you to Google and read about blogging. Just read and write. You will be blogging.



  1. Like any other, other business, you need capital to start. The idea that you need 0 investment in blogging is far fetched. For to have an engaging blog, you need to employ tech guys to help you with setting up your site. If you are lucky to have a techy friend, then you need money to buy a domain and hosting. So you need close to 200 dollars to set yourself up.

 

You will then need to burn the midnight oil creating content. Whether videos or walking and looking for images or typing your ideas, It needs investment. There is no get rich quick scheme. You have to work either way or buy content that will maybe not meet the standard of what you are looking for.

 

  1. Blogging is for those who read a lot. You don’t read, and there is no way you can write without reading. The only you can generate new ideas is listening to what others have to say. Perhaps reading someone’s predicament or solving someone’s challenge. That way, you get ideas on what to write next. Or only write about how you solved someone’s problem. Then you end up being a blogger because you talk about how you do things.

  2. You want to start blogging because you heard people make money blogging or stumbled upon a bloggers income and traffic report, and you said whoa! Now listen. The revenue report was generated for you to get it. Income report cannot be the reason you blog. Here is a reason you should perhaps blog.

  • You went through a devastating experience in life, and you emerged victoriously. Don’t write about blogging experience. Why? Everyone is doing that.
  • Something like getting away from the jaw of cancer or HIV. Hehehe!


  • You did an extraordinary thing that’s hard to keep telling people. You write the story and let the people buy the book and read. Alternatively, you can avail to for free on a blog.
  • You are so talented and everyone is interested in you. I mean everyone want to talk to you and you don’t have that time and you hate public life. You can blog.

7 Facts About Workplaces That Will Surprise Your Friends

Do you work on Saturdays? Now scientists discovered that after working 40 hours in a week, your productivity reduces by 50%. If you were not able to complete your job within 5-days, Saturday wouldn’t make you productive, at all. Stay home, sleep and play with your kids. I searched online and found other seven interesting facts about workplaces that won’t surprise you, but will surprise your friends.

Stay home, sleep and play with your kids. I searched online and found other seven interesting facts about workplaces that won’t surprise you, but will surprise your friends.

Mondays are the most popular sick days

Mondays are the most popular sick days in workplaces and Tuesday is the most productive day of the week. Interesting! Right? Weekend tends to make workers lazy. Some say its the best day to schedule interviews, meet potential clients and corner your employer to give you a pay rise.

In Mexico, People work more days than the rest of the world.

According to CNN, Mexicans work averagely 519 more hours that an average American worker. Mexican average 45 hours a week which is higher that any industrialized nation worldwide.

The only bad thing is that there a huge gender gap with 78% of men having jobs. In Chile, people work 50hours a week? Where are you?

France prohibited Alcohol in workplaces.But not Wine

Alcohol in French office was mandated by until in 2014 when a court ruled to abolish alcohol in offices.

Email Addiction is a Real Disease.

I worked in a bank, and the only way to get things done is to send an email. It sucks to hear someone failing to do his/her job then blaming the colleague for not sending an email. Emails in offices is an addiction and further a disease that needs attention.

In Germany, female employees must wear a bra.

In 2011 a German court ruled that bosses have a right to order female employees to wear bras. Also, the length of a lady’s fingernails can be determined by her immediate superior and her hair must clean and groomed. The story in the daily mail. Read.

Recently Ugandan government prohibited female employees from wearing miniskirts and having long nails. Then there was so much fuss across the media fraternity. It is common for dress code to be set at workplaces

Listening to Music while working makes things get done faster.

Telecommuting worker is more productive when given a job that requires creativity but less productive when given a random repetitive task.

What to do on your first Day at work

What did you do on your first day at work? I just arrived and sat at the reception. I think my new boss is a good guy. Generous and ready to offer me the support I need. Fantastic right. But he is too busy. He leaves me at the reception and locks himself inside for a two-hour meeting that he initially told me in thick distinct Indian accent

“just five minutes I finish the projections.”



I nod in agreement and continue waiting. Then Lynette walks in. She is the receptionist, and she is ten minutes late. I wonder the type of workplace is this. Who walks in an Indian owned business late? She says hi and proceeds to her seat. She is not worried at all. It seems she has been around for a while. She is used to her bosses, and they cannot confront her, or maybe she is too good at what she does.

She asks, “did anyone assist you?”. I tell her “yeah.”

I further inform her that the boss just walked in a meeting.
She settles down quickly. We are on the twelfth floor, and the July Nairobi breeze is started to command some attention. My wife reminded me to carry my jacket, and I feel the warmth.

Lynette, with a tender loving voice, I call customer services voice, asks me loud and clear, “the weather is taking a tall order on you.”
“Nuh. I’m all right.” I respond with my broad smile assuring her that the weather is not a problem. She leaves her desk and walks to walks inside. She was looking for an empty conference room to host me. She didn’t want me to sound like a customer who has not been attended to.

She comes back and asks me to follow her. I initially thought she had been invited to bring me in. I clear my throat, adjust my jacket and follow her from a distance lest she gets uncomfortable, you know!

She ushers into a smaller conference room and asks me to wait. I thanked and in my heart asked her to leave the chamber. Faster. I was in the middle a complex investment decision that she had interrupted. When I start something, I usually want it completed.

She wanted to ask me if I could take tea. So she asks. I said no thank you. Maybe water. She walks outside and comes back with a mug of tea with exact measurement of sugar that I like.

How did she even know? Ooh, yeah. She is a Luhya, and she knows I am one too and there was no way I would say no to this one.



Wow! The view is sumptuous and for the five minutes, looked outside as I sipped the hot cup of tea.

After a while, my new boss walks in with a tiny bodied Indian girl also working in the same office. He gives her quick instructions to get me a laptop and show me where I should sit. This is an open plan room.

The CEO sits next to the sales team, and I am placed right next to his door. Do you know how awkward it is? He didn’t interview me, he doesn’t know me, and there is no basis to start a conversation.

I text my friend Bruce that I am in an awkward position here because the CEO just left his office and stood right behind me. He was looking around for infrastructure that was competing for his attention.

He calls an Indian girl opposite my desk and asks her,
“Do you know who owns that building?”
“That one?” She asks.
“No, the one next to it” he demonstrated. “Please find out the owner and also see whether it is for sale or hire. Can you do it?”
“Right away” the lady responds.

This whole time I am freaking scared. I am doing nothing. I just walked in a large open plan office without being introduced to anyone, and I don’t have anything to do.

Bruce laughs. Skype has some interesting emoji’s you can use to show emotions. Then he reminds me.

“First day at work is like the first day without employment. You start creating posts for your blog.”

Shit, Bruce is right. I should be writing a nice long post for my blog. I start writing a long form post



Familiarize yourself with your surroundings. By this time its 1 pm. My wife left a message wondering how I was fairing. Honestly, I am pressed, and I need to go to the loo. Then I remember my second day of the interview I saw an Indian guy walk in a particular direction twice or thrice in one hour. His pace and his body language told me he was headed there. So I tried my luck there without asking anyone. Oh, and the toilets are labeled I don’t need to ask.

A new workstation is usually a beautiful place to begin. Open the draw. Pull out forgotten on discarded old notebooks. You might get valuable info. I stumbled upon the contact of the guy who sat at the station last month. I text him to create a rapport.

This place isn’t as friendly as I would have wanted it to be because everybody seems to mind their own business. The guy texts back and the conversation goes on. He casually introduces me to some tasks and offers to help in case I am stuck.

Pull Yourself together and rise after Job loss

Do you find it difficult to cope after you lose your job or finish college? Well, I have been through the same. When I quit my job at Family Bank, I had no idea where my life was heading. I had no particular employer to engage me immediately. You are not alone because many employed millennials are in a disguised kind of employment.

The general belief is you need to have another job before deciding to quit. That is bullshit because there are a lot of jobs in the market. Why?because more than 80 percent of working millennials are in wrong jobs. Technically everyone is looking for a job.

It sucks to stay in bed while everyone leaves for fancy office that they hate. Young people leave for office to go and bad mouth their jobs. Why didn’t everyone quit or wait for the right job no matter what! The society should stop demanding to Expand your skills. By taking up some courses or volunteer roles.

Taking up free courses only costs your time. Consequently, it improves your knowledge and competitiveness in the job market. Volunteer roles in a uniquely enabled society can be a good start. You will appreciate that life it not always about the money.

Greatest entrepreneurs on earth weren’t entirely motivated by the money aspect.Take up some challenges like the Google Digital Skills for Africa. I took the course within two days. I could have easily made it in a day, but my son demands too much attention. The questions are many and if you are like me, it will take you 3 minutes max to complete every lesson. You have to go through 89 lessons to get a certificate like the one below. How it helps you, I don’t know.

If you keep up with the latest movies, series or latest new trends, you may think of starting your blog. Blogging is the new way of lazing around. It turns out to the greatest invention after social media. In countries where governments gag the media, citizens turn to blogs for information. And activism. Now, you can blog about anything. From your family, food, toys, pets, farming, sales, schooling name it.

Take up some challenges like the Google Digital Skills for Africa. I took the course within two days. I could have easily made it in a day, but my son demands too much attention. The questions are many and if you are like me, it will take you 3 minutes max to complete every lesson. You have to go through 89 lessons to get a certificate like the one below. How it helps you, I don’t know.

How it helps you, I don’t know. If you keep up with the latest movies, series or latest new trends, you may think of starting your blog. Blogging is the new way of lazing around. It turns out to the greatest invention after social media. In countries where governments gag the media, citizens turn to blogs for information. And activism. Now, you can blog about anything. From your family, food, toys, pets, farming, sales, schooling name it.

6 Useless Excuses You Should Stop Giving for not Launching a Side Hustle

A side hustle should keep you going. It is the motivation that keeps you doing whatever you do. I started my blog while I was employed as an accounts assistant at microfinance firm. Then I moved to work for a bank; then I left the bank to work full-time for my side business.

I saw enormous potential generating through writing gigs. Then after a month, I realized I wasn’t doing enough. I almost quit. But I didn’t because I had not found a stable job to keep my family comfortable. I kept pressing on. Here are six useless excuses people give for failing to for not setting up side hustles

1. I am employed, and I don’t have enough time.

No one has time; No one can keep time, and no one can stop time. There is always no time, and there is always time to do anything and everything. You need to squeeze your schedule and fit in a hustle. It is possible you sleep too much. You can reduce sleeping hours.

2. I don’t have capital to put into the business

The money will never be enough. So no one has money, and every one has money. There is no reason for money to stop you from starting what could be a start of the century. The best capital you need is sacrifice and determination to make it through. You can stop spending $100 a day on your lunch and save towards making your side hustle a success. If it’s a website like mine, you only need $50 to get started. Capital is never an excuse.

3. I have seen people fail I might fail terribly

There is the only thing that successful people distinguish themselves from the rest. They failed and never stayed there. They dusted themselves and tried again. It is better to seek to fail that no to try. Reality check: the truth is that you’ll fail and you won’t be the first to fail, neither would you be the last. So stop telling yourself you will fail.

4. My idea isn’t that unique. Everyone is doing the same thing.

Well I agree. Perhaps what you have in mind is in the minds of others. But that does not mean you have the same way of executing the idea. When Harry Markowitz was writing is portfolio theory thesis he didn’t know that someone else was on the same topic. There was someone named A.D Roy who researched There was someone named A.D Roy who researched

When Harry Markowitz was writing is portfolio theory thesis he didn’t know that someone else was on the same topic. There was someone named A.D Roy who researched There was someone named A.D Roy who researched he same idea in the same year. Markowitz work became the pillar of modern finance theory because he never stopped pursuing it. Secondly; A.D Roy didn’t publish his work so no one knew about it until years later when markowitz acknowledges the work of Roy.

5. I’m not sure I can do it

Feed yourself positive thoughts about your idea. If you ever thought that it could be successful, then it will be successful. Try to focus on the positive side. The truth is you might not be able to do it. But you cannot be sure of that if you don’t try. Stand up take a deep breath and set up the side hustle.

6. The time isn’t ripe yet. I will do this next year

That is a cute phrase used to describe procrastination. My wife is an expert in this. You want to call someone and know how they are doing and you say ” I am going to do it over lunch time” She sometimes does it when she remembers, but in most cases, she gets too busy. You can do it now. Stop being lazy and too complacent and too comfortable. You got to get yourself dirty to get things moving.